April 7, 2025

Habits call for a form of refinement and editing their process.

Obviously there are many people who have written extremely in-depth about habits and productivity and how to establish new habits or change old habits.

However I have found 3 things are most impactful when it comes to whether or not I’ll successfully establish a new habit.

There are more but this is my personal go-to list.

Thing 1: Make the new habit easy

This is obvious. If something is difficult, and you make it easier, it is easier to do. We all know that.

A convenient water bottle makes drinking water first thing in the morning easier.

Journal front and center with a pen next to it makes daily journaling easier.

Supportive hiking boots make taking a walk in the woods easier.

A default workout outfit makes working out easier.

Concrete and achievable subject, time limit and/or word count makes writing easier.

A trusted schedule makes posting easier.

Icebreakers make new projects easier.

Etc. Etc. Etc.

But what tripped me up for a long time, and what trips up a lot of my clients (get in touch if you’re interested in working together) is the process of making a habit easy usually takes many rounds of practice and refinement.

For example: I wanted to drink water first thing in the morning. I set the goal. I never did it.

I tried to habit-stack it with brushing my teeth. My plan was to: brush my teeth, rinse out my mouth, drink some water. I forget that third step more often than not. Apparently my morning tooth brushing is too well ingrained.

But my coffee routine should be able to support another beverage! I go to the kitchen, drink water, grab coffee, and continue. That should work right?

It did not.

It turns out that: go to the kitchen, grab a glass, fill a glass, drink water, put the glass in the dishwasher, and then grab coffee is too many additional steps.

(Apparently I am very particular about my morning routine.)

But there is one last place where drinking water could be added to my morning – as my coffee is cooling, but before I start drinking it.

Every morning my schedule allows, I drink my coffee while reading a book. (Highly recommend!) When I leave a filled water bottle next to my book, then I can put down my coffee, pick up the water bottle, drink water (close to) first thing in the morning, put down the water bottle, and pick up my book. And that is working.

Making new habits easy often requires trial, error, and refinement.

Keep removing barriers and keep trying new things until your habit is established.

Thing 2: Define key the parameters of the new habit

With the water example my key parameters were: 1) drink water, 2) first thing in the morning (by which I really meant before coffee), and 3) (implied) every day.

But I could have decided my key parameters were: a certain quantity of water, or before a certain time in the morning, or a specific number of days per week or per month.

I find this thing particularly helpful with habits that can get complex.

By defining the key parameters (usually informed by the goal or desired outcome) everything else is up for experimentation.

We’ll use marketing a business for this example:

If your goal is staying top of mind for clients and customers, maybe your key parameters are 1) frequency of contact and 2) consistency of brand voice and visuals.

If your goal is to reach new eyes, maybe your key parameters are 1) identifying new watering holes and 2) engaging with new audiences.

If your goal is to increase your comfort and gain familiarity with marketing your business, maybe your key parameters are 1) increase marketing tasks completed and 2) decrease time spent second guessing yourself.

When we clearly identify what we’re trying to achieve, we’re more likely to succeed.

But we’re also more likely to give ourselves the trial and error required to succeed.

Thing 3: Keep everything else flexible

This is the second half of Thing 2, and the reason to bother identifying the key habit parameters. Establishing a new habit is hard enough, increasing the difficulty by adding complexity makes it even harder.

If you’ve identified the key parameters of your new habit, I say, let everything else be up for experimentation. Find out what is working and what is not.

• Could something be even easier or more effective?
• What could be cut without disturbing the heart of the habit?

Because when we can connect with the heart of the habit, we can tap into our intrinsic motivation. We can meet our life where it is. We can meet ourselves where we are.

Then we can let go of how the habit looks and dig into what the habit is.

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